We Are Wise Thinkers

  By J.E. Nickerson Have you ever chased after someone’s approval, only to be disappointed by their lack of interest in your life? Many people look to friends, colleagues or family for a sense of self justification or worth and value. This can be a self esteem trap and cause us endless heartache and sadness.  While we should set high standards of excellence for ourselves, when we allow our personal value and self worth to be based on other people’s opinions of us, we are setting ourselves up for eventual heartache. That is because people’s opinions vary and change unpredictably. The person we are hoping to win the approval of, may never fully care about us in the way we want them to. I have often heard the expression that if you live for the approval of other people, you will die from the pain of their rejection.  Because people can be capricious, their opinions and approval of our lives, is not a safe or stable foundation to build our self esteem on.  Instead, we must turn to God who